Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Fireproof


This is just going to be a quick post to make a recommendation - if you are married or ever want to be married, I encourage you to watch the movie Fireproof. My parents gave it to us last year (sorry for the delay Mom and Pop) and we watched it the other night. It was wonderful.

Disclaimer - There are a few hokey (is that even a word) parts as many of the actors are volunteers from the Sherwood Baptist Church in Georgia where the two brothers who co-wrote and co-produced the film are the associate pastors. However, that in no way detracts from the central message(s) of the movie which are excellent or the movie overall. These same pastors also created Facing the Giants, also highly recommended by moi.

Interesting Side Note - at the end when Kirk Cameron is kissing his on scene wife, it is really his real wife:

Actor Kirk Cameron, the squeaky-clean guy from television’s “Growing Pains”, is in a new movie called “Fireproof”. Kirk Cameron talks about romance scenes in movies, and how he will only kiss his wife, Chelsea Noble.

Kirk Cameron’s new movie, “Fireproof,” called for him to kiss the actress playing his wife. But this was a huge problem, as Kirk will not kiss any woman, not his wife.

“I have a commitment not to kiss any other woman,” the former child star of “Growing Pains” told Hoda Kotb and Kathie Lee Gifford Monday on TODAY in New York.

So to get around this problem, they dressed his wife, actress Chelsea Noble, to look like the female lead character and shot the scene in silhouette.

“So when I’m kissing my wife, we’re actually husband and wife honoring marriage behind the scenes,” Cameron said as Gifford and Kotb melted from the romanticism of the moment.

Kirk Cameron became a Christian at the age of 17 while on the show “Growing Pains”, as character Mike Seaver. Chelsea Noble was his co-star and his girlfriend on the show.

The couple fell in love in real life and married in 1991, when Cameron was 20 and Noble was 26. Today the couple have six children ranging in age from 5 to 12, including four who were adopted.

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Time on Earth is Short

My blog is fast turning into a place where I just post articles, etc...I will try to be original soon. In the meantime, I wanted to share this interview that I found after seeing a quick mention of this woman's story on TV. She lost her husband, 5 1/2 year old and 2 week old baby in a car wreck in 2006. Awful. And a reminder that we are not guaranteed another second, minute, hour or day. I am going to try to live with that more readily in the forefront of my mind. It makes me feel like I should be living with more purpose, less procrastination, more love, less irritation, more commitment to things that matter, and less concern for those that don't.

The highlighted part in red is the primary reason for this post.

'Biggest Loser' Contestant Abby Is Our Hero
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
From: http://www.momlogic.com/2009/10/why_biggest_losers_abby_rike_is_our_hero.php#ixzz0TAEXBYIj

She continues to amaze us week after week

When we heard about Abby Rike, "The Biggest Loser" contestant who lost her two children and husband in a 2006 car crash, we just couldn't imagine how she could even go on. But every week, she continues to inspire us as she not only survives, but thrives. Abby shares how she triumphed over tragedy with momlogic.

ML: You are such an inspiration to us, Abby. We are all rooting for you on "The Biggest Loser."

Abby: Thank you so much. Being on the show has indeed been an absolutely amazing experience -- something I obviously never dreamed I would be a part of!

ML: Did you always have a weight issue, or was it something that you just struggled with after your family tragedy?

Abby: I have struggled with weight for as long as I can remember. I did put on some weight after the accident, but it is something I always struggled with.

ML: How have you managed to keep your integrity amongst all the drama on the ranch?

Abby: My journey is maybe a little different. I stay out of nonsense as much as I can. I rely on people I trust and love on the ranch, same as I would do in real life.

ML: When we heard you had lost your kids and husband in a car crash, so many of the moms around the office said that if we were in your shoes, we simply couldn't go on. How do you find that inner strength?

Abby: If I had heard the story before it happened to me, I would have thought the same thing -- that I couldn't go on. My family was my top priority. They say where you spend your time and your money shows your true priorities, and my family was my top priority by a zillion percent.


An experience like what I've gone through forces you to ask yourself: "Do I really believe all the things I thought I believed?" And the answer is yes, absolutely, I do. I believe without a shadow of a doubt that I will see them again, and that God is all I have known him to be. Faith has gotten me through. There is no way in my own power I could handle it on my own. I don't pretend I am perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but I have a peace that precedes all understanding.


ML: Do you have a strong support system?

Abby: I have wonderful parents and family. We are pretty private people by nature, so when I was going through "The Biggest Loser" audition process, I asked for their blessing. My mom said, "If this is something you need to do, you know you have our full support."

ML: What do you say to the moms out there who feel they don't have time to work out?

Abby: I firmly believe that children come first and families come first -- I'm sure that the majority of mothers feel this way. But you have to take care of yourself so you can be the best mom you can be. That could mean finding an hour to go to the gym, or taking a walk around the block with the kiddos. It's paramount to being a great mom.

I prided myself on being a great mom. But now I think I could have been much more than I was if I was physically fit. I'm not going to beat myself up over it, but I think I could have been a better mom and wife if I would have known.

ML: Do you have any tips for moms out there who hate to exercise?

Abby: This is what I've learned: There really is an exercise out there for everyone. You might think exercise is this horrible thing or it's boring, but there are so many things you can do! You're not just handcuffed to the elliptical or the treadmill. It's about incorporating things you truly love into your day.

I've been dealing with a stress fracture, so I've had to be creative. I love being outside, so I do a walk/jog outdoors. I love to spin. I love combat class -- I'm giddy every time I go! There are classes and things you can find that you'll actually like. Just don't give up!

ML: Besides the weight loss, how has "The Biggest Loser" experience changed you?

Abby: I always felt like my life mattered before the wreck: I was a great teacher, and
I was a great wife and mother.

And then after the wreck, every role as I knew it was gone. My husband and I taught at the same school together, did the grocery shopping together, and were the best of friends, coworkers, and soulmates. We personified everything you want in a marriage. We were constantly doing fun things with our daughter, Macy, and then our son Caleb came along, and literally life was perfect.

I felt like everything I did was a waste of time after the accident. Eventually, I thought: "I can't feel like this for the rest of my life ... like I am just taking up space." I tried going back to school, and then going back into the classroom. It was like salve on the wound, but didn't bring true healing.

I never knew feeling so much better physically would be this emotionally healing for me. I've had so much support. Physically, I feel so much better. I am soaking up every moment of this journey, and I'm doing really well. The world has just welcomed me back with open arms. It's wonderful.

ML: Anything else you'd like to tell our readers?

Abby: I think being a mom is the most important thing in the world, and that never goes away. I am still a mom, and always will be.

You go, Abby! You're our inspiration!

Monday, October 26, 2009

Inspiring Story

I saw this story today at www.msnbc.com and thought it a good reminder to be grateful for my life and countless blessings. It is so easy to get bogged down in the day to day "stuff" of life and place value on things that don't matter....I would like to have the attitude of this little girl....the last paragraph of this is what stood out for me. Even with all that she went through in her short life, she still managed to serve as inspiration to others. I think that is just awesome....and is the primary reason for this post.

Maine girl with ‘mermaid syndrome’ dies at 10
‘Tough little thing’ gained following on Internet, TV

updated 3:41 p.m. ET, Sat., Oct . 24, 2009

PORTLAND, Maine - Shiloh Pepin, a girl who was born with fused legs, a rare condition often called "mermaid syndrome," and gained a wide following on the Internet and U.S. television, has died. She was 10.

Doctors had predicted she would at most only survive for days after her birth. The girl died at Maine Medical Center on Friday afternoon, hospital spokesman John Lamb said. She had been hospitalized in critical condition for nearly a week.

Being born with "mermaid syndrome," also known as sirenomelia, meant that the Kennebunkport girl had only one partially working kidney, no lower colon or genital organs and legs fused from the waist down.

Some children who have survived sirenomelia have had surgery to separate their legs, but Shiloh did not because blood vessels crossing from side to side in her circulatory system would have been severed. She had received two kidney transplants, the last one in 2007.

Her story was featured recently on "The Oprah Winfrey Show" and other national television programs.

Earlier this month, her mother, Leslie Pepin, said her daughter came down with a cold that quickly turned to pneumonia. Shiloh was rushed to Maine Medical Center on Oct. 10 and was placed on antibiotics and a ventilator.

For a while, Leslie Pepin said, things were looking up. "She's a tough little thing," she said of her daughter earlier this week.

Shiloh was a fifth-grader at Kennebunkport Consolidated School. "She was such a shining personality in that building," said Maureen King, chairwoman of the board of the regional school district. Counselors will be available next week to talk to students.

Through the television shows, news articles, Facebook and other Web sites, Shiloh inspired many.

"I live in Iowa. I have cerebral palsy. I love your video," 12-year-old Lydia Dawley wrote to Shiloh on Facebook. "You have a great personality I wish you lived close so we could be friends and hang out. You opened my eyes because you are so brave."

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Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Recipes and Jeanooking

I have had a wild hair to cook lately, and not the usual way I like to of just throwing a bunch of cans together and/or giving up and ordering from one of the downtown restaurants on my way home from work. I know, shameful.

Anywho, this is as close to jeanooking as I can get (my friend Jeanette is a chef, thus I hearby coin what she does as jeanooking - cooking can be anything, but jeanooking means you are trying to do from scratch, using freaky ingredients and if you are me, turning your kitchen into a mess....in other words, you are not adding hamburger to some stuff in a box and calling it a day). The problem with jeanooking is that I am very slow about it. This in combination with my ADD and flippant attitude about chores is a problem.

Anywho, I made this last night and highly recommend. Even better the next day reheated for lunch. The stuffing would be a great side. I don't know where she found pork chops so low in calories, but for mine I figured one stuffed one is 250 calories, so my serving size was 1, not 2....but I didn't have extra thin chops either.

http://greenlitebites.com/2009/10/06/bulgur-stuffed-pork-with-butternut-squash-apples/

Also made these:

http://greenlitebites.com/2007/11/21/moist-pumpkin-bran-muffins/

They came out very moist. However, not that sweet so if you are looking for sweet, may need to modify w/ some splenda. I am also going to replace the cinnamon with pumpkin pie spice for next batch.

I had to go to Whole Foods to find bulgur and wheat bran. Let me just say, WOW. I could easily fall in love with that store. It is awesome and they actually have some pretty decent sale prices. But, I digress.

Lastly, this is a standby in our house. It is really good and freezes great. If you have not used spaghetti squash, try it! It can be substituted for pasta in any dish and takes on the flavor of any dish.

http://greenlitebites.com/2008/04/27/7-layer-mexican-casserole-idea/

All of these take time of course, but I have had a little extra time this week and am trying to get stocked up for when I don't with lots of healthy pre-made dishes. My biggest problem with cooking is when I get held up at work or have errands and it is after 7pm before I get in....the last thing I want to do is then get in the kitchen.

That said, I did enjoy my cooking night last night and am going to try to have a day a week to do it all...maybe Sunday afternoons.

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Closer Than You Think

My sister-in-law sent me this article from the Charlotte Observer. It is a sad reminder that the problem of human trafficking is not just "over there". In the article, a 14 year old girl was trafficked in to "work at a restaurant" and ended up being forced to have sex with men in Greenville, SC; Columbia and Charlotte....that's pretty close to home for me.

Do note, the stat presented in the article is likely an annual one as it is very low. The standard estimates I have seen are 100,000 to 200,000 children trafficked in our country for sex and labor. These are someone's daughters, sisters, friends.

Tonight as we lay our heads down, thousands of children are living this hell (it is estimated that 27 million people are enslaved worldwide - the majority of them women and children). We must do something. Cliche, yes, but also true - evil triumphs when good men do nothing. You are not too small, too busy, too young, too old, too whatever to help fight this. There are local efforts that are mobilizing and you can be a part of that in whatever capacity you can/want. If you are interested, drop me a comment or email or Facebook message. I promise you will be blessed by joining in this cause. If you are not local and still interested, let me know, I am sure I can put you in touch with the right people wherever you are.

Please take 3 minutes to read this. Building awareness is critical to fighting this problem. Please also pass it on. Thank you.

http://www.charlotteobserver.com/topstories/story/983851.html?pageNum=2&mi_pluck_action=page_nav#Comments_Container

Teens become prey in Charlotte sex trade
Human trafficking case shows the desperate plight of girls forced into prostitution.

By Franco Ordoñezfordonez@charlotteobserver.com
Posted: Sunday, Oct. 04, 2009

In his east Charlotte apartment less than a mile from Windsor Park Elementary, Jorge Flores Rojas created a religious shrine to a mystical figure known as the patron saint of death, who is said to protect pimps and other criminals.

Each day, Flores prayed to Santa Muerte, or "Saint Death," joined by the teenage girls whom he forced to have sex with as many as 20 men a day.
Flores, 45, was a notorious operator in a city that has become a center for sex trafficking along the East Coast.

Local and federal authorities are not sure how extensive the Charlotte sex rings have become. They say Flores' ring brought in hundreds of young women each year to work as prostitutes.
Flores was convicted of trafficking in April. But authorities say other pimps in Charlotte continue to prey on young girls from poor countries.

"I don't think we really realized how big this was," says Delbert Richburg, assistant special agent in charge of U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement's Office of Investigations in Charlotte. "We're probably just scratching the surface."

The growth is so extensive that this month ICE stationed a team of agents in Charlotte to focus on human trafficking, smuggling and exploitation. Across the Carolinas, immigrant sex rings have been broken up in Monroe, Durham and Columbia.

Jennifer Stuart, a staff attorney for Legal Aid of North Carolina, says her office has seen a "sharp increase" in trafficking case referrals the last few months.

Federal agents say Flores, an illegal immigrant from Mexico, picked up vans full of eight to 10 young women each week outside the McDonald's on West Sugar Creek Road near Interstate 85, where other traffickers had brought them. Others, he smuggled in directly from Latin America.
Two pairs of children's sneakers, pink and green, now sit outside Flores' old apartment off Sharon Amity Road near Eastland Mall. It was one of two apartments where, just a year ago, he hid his teenage victims.

Authorities say he brought customers there, but mostly took the girls to hotels and brothels set up around the city.

He favored teenagers because he could charge more. Clients paid $25 to $30 for 15 minutes with one of the girls. One teenage victim testified in court that, on many occasions, Flores would drive her to a house or an apartment where men would be waiting.

An undercover agent says the teenagers would be made to have sex with up to 100 men a week.
"I have daughters," he says. "... Every time I think of that number, it's something I can't fathom."

Trading in New York, D.C.
To keep a fresh cycle of women in Charlotte, Flores traded with traffickers, including relatives, in Washington, D.C., and New York.

In November 2007, court documents say, he "sold" at least two teenagers from Mexico to Yaneth Martinez, a D.C. madam, who advertised her services with cards offering "Hair Cuts for Men Only."

Martinez worked the girls in the capital city and gave Flores a cut of the profits. A month later, she returned them to him.

Their business relationship worked like this for more than a year, federal authorities said. Then, Flores took a liking to Martinez's teenage daughter.

He asked her if she'd work with him. She refused. Flores didn't give up.

He later called the girl's cell phone and asked her to meet him. He threatened to hurt her mother if she didn't.

She agreed to meet him. She hoped he only wanted to talk, but Flores threw her in his car, authorities said.

"'Sit there, don't say anything. Don't even try to look where we're going,'" agents said he told her.
Martinez tipped off a women's center in Washington that her daughter had been kidnapped. The center contacted authorities.

On Feb. 7, 2008, ICE agents stormed Flores' apartment in Charlotte. He wasn't there, but authorities arrested him a day later in Myrtle Beach. He had brought some of his victims to South Carolina because they had become "overused" in Charlotte, according to court records.
Martinez's daughter spent about three weeks as Flores' captive. Authorities say he raped her repeatedly. He forced her to have sex with dozens of men.

He stuffed her underwear in a small glass vase on his shrine. They prayed together to Santa Muerte.

If you run away, the saint will punish you, he told her.

Charlotte is particularly vulnerable to human trafficking. It's the largest city between Atlanta and Washington, D.C., at the junction of two interstate highways.

In addition, the size of the city's illegal immigrant community allows pimps like Flores to conceal their activities.

As with past waves of immigrants, many of the Latinos are men who left their families to find work. Many victims were lured here with promises of other jobs.

The women are often in the country illegally and dependent on their captors for food and shelter. They're easy to coerce.

"You don't have to have chains or bars to keep somebody under control," said John Price, a special agent with the FBI in Charlotte. "You can do it psychologically and emotionally, and that's typically what traffickers will use. It's a lot cheaper. It's a lot easier to threaten somebody. To beat them up."

Thousands of victims
The FBI estimates that some 18,000 people are trafficked into the United States for sex or forced labor. About a fourth end up in the Southeast; thousands come to the Carolinas.

Most victims of the sex rings are from Latin America, others from Asia and Eastern Europe.

One girl forced into prostitution thought she was coming to North Carolina to be a nanny, says Stuart of Legal Aid, which gives free legal services to low-income people.

Another 14-year-old from Mexico, who thought she was to work at a restaurant, was forced to have sex with men in Greenville, S.C., Columbia and Charlotte.

Martinez's daughter is like any other teenager, said her attorney Christopher Nugent of Washington. She enjoys her iPod and loves to shop. She often draws the dresses she'd like to wear.

In court, she asked if she could answer questions without looking at Flores.

His Charlotte attorney, Lucky Osho, said his client admits arranging women to have sex with men. But he said no one was kidnapped or forced to have sex against her will. Osho said Martinez's daughter was working for Flores in return for some of his women working for Martinez.

"It was part of the business," Osho told the Observer. "It was an exchange."

Flores told authorities that Martinez ran the sex ring.

Martinez's attorney, Lane Williamson, said his client did help Flores' girls find work, but that she did not coerce them. Williamson said Martinez was herself a victim, forced into prostitution earlier in life.

"This is something she was in, from her standpoint, as a matter of necessity," Williamson said. "The (women) were free to go and they did go on their own volition. That was not the case with Flores."

ICE is bringing in more agents and another supervisor to work on its new trafficking team. Victims will not be targeted for arrest or deportation, Special Agent Richburg said. Instead they will be offered special visas in exchange for their help prosecuting traffickers.

In April, Flores pleaded guilty to sex trafficking involving a minor and was sentenced to 24 years, after which he will be deported. He is currently in a federal prison in South Carolina. In July, Martinez pleaded guilty to transporting individuals for prostitution and was sentenced to time served. She will be deported to Honduras.

Martinez's daughter is doing much better, Nugent said. She's living with a foster family. She is getting a special green card for abused or abandoned children.

She wants to go to college and be a lawyer.

Two other girls found with Flores at the time of his arrest were also placed with foster families through a Charlotte women's center, authorities said.

The center arranged medical care and new clothes. ICE agents arranged work permits.

Before the permits arrived, the girls disappeared.

Thursday, September 17, 2009

We miss you Hayden Grace!

This is stolen from Shannon's blog, but is one of my favorite pictures of Hayden :) Today she celebrates her 4th birthday with the angels. Her mom and dad are celebrating by doing what they have always done in her memory, helping others: http://thecraverfamily.blogspot.com/2009/09/birthday-plans.html. They have done some wonderful things in her honor over the years and helped countless families. If you would like to do something in her memory, monetary gifts can be made to Wake Med for the Hayden Grace Memorial Fund (Shannon, correct me if that is wrong).

We love you Hayden Grace!


Thursday, September 3, 2009

Buddy the Coonhound

Well....we ended up keeping one of the coonhounds that walked up to our house. The other wondered off and we heard she ended up in the care of some other lady...fine with us, we are sharing the animal do-gooder love. Anyway, basically we had to keep him...the shelters are full, you can't give a dog away in this economy and also, we are suckers for this face:




Also, he was a very good nap partner after an insanely busy summer:


We are getting the yard fenced in so he can run and play. Err, I mean to increase the value of our home. Yes, yes, that's what I meant. Also, I have discovered the dog park and LOVE it (Buddy thinks it is not to bad either...though he spends as much time running up to the people to get petted as he does playing with the other dogs). Note to Ginger -you need to come with me some time, you will be in heaven...there are all kinds of different dogs and it is hilarious to watch them interact together. They all have their own little personalities. Poor Buddy did not really know how to play when we first took him, but he is learning from the others and actually tryed to engage a Great Dane puppy the last time we were there :)